HERE ARE SEVERAL SUGGESTIONS TO GET YOU THROUGH THEM
I know, Friday and Saturday nights have traditionally been known as “Date Night;” and the weekend is supposed to be the time to be with other people to have fun and de-stress from the work week. So, if you’re single and not at all happy about that fact, you might find that as the weekend approaches, you’re dreading it; not having a date or a plan to do something with friends or family, during the day or at night.
But, first of all, may I tell you an experience of mine? Years ago, after an excruciatingly painful breakup (with the “love of my life”) I found the weekends were the most difficult time for me-during the week I was accustomed to not having my partner around-as he worked Monday through Friday (I was not working outside the home at that point), but on the weekends we were always together, doing fun things. I had to figure out a way to get out and keep busy, so I got a job that was just on Saturdays. I was an avid needle pointer at that time, so I had gotten to know the people at a needlepoint store. I asked if they needed someone to work on Saturdays, and fortunately for me, they did! It was the perfect way for me to get out and keep busy, plus be around others who loved to needlepoint. The added bonus was that I got discounts on the materials! Had I not identified my most difficult issue and problem-solved to find the solution, there’s no telling to what depths I might have fallen. My healing could have taken so much longer. I eventually incorporated all of the suggestions that follow, as well, so my weekends weren’t only about working.
Basically, what I did was look for what I needed to get through the weekends. For me, it was working. For you, if it’s also working, then go for something you already love to do and search for a job doing that. If you already are satisfied with your work situation and just need to keep busy on the weekends, here are some suggestions…
You might want to start making a habit of looking in the Calendar section of your local newspapers for fun events coming up. You can start looking for future events, and when you find something you’d like to do, see if it’s something you can go to by yourself, or if not, start asking friends if they’d like to go with you. Basically, making it an adventure to find things that interest you and then making a plan as to how it can work for you to do it! That way, you have a plan in place as the weekend of the event approaches, and you don’t have to dread that weekend. And, you can repeat this every week, as you continue to peruse the Calendar (and other sections, too) of your local newspaper. Keep searching for events and keep planning ahead.
If there are things you would like to do or causes with which you’d like to get involved, you can also search for those things in the newspapers, including local small weekly papers in your area, as well as searching the internet. For instance, if you want to learn to tango (by the way, that’s extremely popular right now) you can: 1) search the papers for classes; 2) look in the yellow pages for dance studios and call them to see if they’re offering tango; and 3) search the internet for tango classes in your area. Most classes do NOT require a partner and of course, could be a perfect place to meet someone interesting-a potential partner or just a friend. And, at the very least, you get to enjoy dancing in the process! This method would also apply to any other interests you have, such as scrap-booking, learning to sail, making wine, learning a language or making pottery. The list is really endless.
As far as causes in which to get involved, let’s say you have a passion for animals; you can contact the local humane society and see if they need volunteers. Generally they do and have a variety of jobs that you could choose as you find which one suits your talents. Or, find a local Habitat for Humanity chapter and start working on a team to build houses for others. These are most often strictly weekend endeavors. How about reading to children or seniors? Again, there really are numerous avenues for giving back to the community in some way, and groups are thrilled and appreciative to have people volunteer. Have you ever heard that giving back can make someone feel better because it gets them outside of themselves? Most newspapers have a section during the week in which they list volunteer opportunities, and once again the internet can be a great resource.
If your passion is running, hiking, rock climbing, or any other sport-using the same resources-you can often find clubs in your area in which to get involved. There are running clubs, bicycling clubs, rock climbing, etc., most of which have events on the weekends. And again, a great place to meet like-minded people with whom to connect outside of the scheduled event.
The main focus here is to stop and think about what YOU love to do or would like to explore, then go searching for someplace in which to do it. If you’re specifically looking to fill your weekend days and nights, there is no end to ways in which to do that. And then, BINGO, you no longer have to dread the weekend, but instead look forward to the weekends!
Who cares about Date Night, you’ve got more important things to do!!
Stay tuned for future articles on ways to discover what you might love to do.